What You Should Not Talk About at Social Events (And What to Talk About Instead)
Social events bring together people from every phase of life — newcomers who just moved to the city, couples looking to expand their circle, recent graduates trying to meet people, individuals whose old friends drifted away, and people getting back into social life after a breakup.
The one thing they all have in common is simple:
They’re here to connect, relax, and have a good time.
And that only happens when conversations feel safe, comfortable, and welcoming for everyone.
Unfortunately, some topics can instantly make things awkward, tense, or uncomfortable — even if you didn’t intend to cause harm.
Here’s a guide on what not to talk about at social events, based on what we’ve seen happen repeatedly at our mixers — plus what you should talk about instead.
1. Avoid Politics at All Costs
Politics is one of the fastest ways to ruin a conversation.
Why?
- People come from different political beliefs
- Opinions can get heated quickly
- Someone may feel judged or unsafe
- The whole vibe of the group can shift
- Conversations turn into debates rather than connections
You won’t win friends by winning political arguments.
Save political discussions for another time, another place, and with people who actually want to have them.
2. Avoid Negative Comments About the Other Gender
This happens more often than it should — sometimes unintentionally, sometimes out of frustration or humour that doesn’t land well.
Comments that generalize or criticize:
- Men
- Women
- Dating behavior
- Gender stereotypes
…can instantly make others uncomfortable.
Even if you’re “just venting,” it can alienate others, especially in a mixed group.
Keep the environment positive and respectful.
3. Avoid Oversharing About Past Relationships
It’s totally normal to mention parts of your life, but going deep into:
- Heartbreak stories
- Your ex’s behavior
- How badly dating has been going
- Detailed emotional trauma
…can quickly dominate the conversation and shift the mood.
Social events are about getting to know each other, not delivering a monologue about your ex.
A little context is okay — but don’t let your past relationship become the entire conversation.
4. Avoid Commenting on Someone’s Appearance
This includes:
- Critiquing their outfit
- Mentioning their weight
- Commenting on body shape
- Making jokes about looks
- “Rating” attractiveness
- Any comment that can be interpreted as objectifying
Even compliments can unintentionally feel uncomfortable if you’re meeting someone for the first time.
When in doubt, just avoid appearance-focused topics.
Compliment someone’s vibe, energy, or conversation instead.
5. Avoid Insulting or “Edgy” Humor
Some people try to impress by being sarcastic or edgy, but it often backfires.
Insults — even joking ones — can be read as:
- Degrading
- Passive-aggressive
- Trying too hard
- Mean-spirited
- Unwelcoming
Remember: people don’t know your humor style yet.
Early conversations are not the place for risky jokes or “roasting.”
So… What Should You Talk About?
Here’s what works extremely well (and we've seen it repeatedly):
✔ Shared Interests
Ask about:
- Hobbies
- Music
- Movies
- Games
- Fitness
- Art
- Travel
Shared interests lead to stronger bonds.
✔ Activities Around the City
Ask about:
- Restaurants
- Cafés
- Live events
- Bars
- Festivals
- Outdoor activities
This naturally leads to future plans with new friends.
✔ Work or Projects (Lightly)
Not in a heavy way — but people enjoy talking about what they’re passionate about.
✔ Future Goals
Easy, positive, uplifting.
Final Thoughts
Social events are meant to be fun, friendly, and welcoming. By avoiding heavy, divisive, or negative topics — and focusing on shared interests — you give yourself (and the people around you) the best chance to build real, lasting friendships.
Great conversations don’t require perfect storytelling. Just curiosity, kindness, and a few good questions.